Couples tarot reading: your feelings, theirs and where the relationship is heading

Use a couples tarot reading when your relationship needs thought. Read the 6-card spread, weigh both sides fairly and turn the reading into a conversation.

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A couples tarot reading suits a time when your relationship has something to think about: you are arguing more, feeling distant or getting ready for the next step. A good couples reading does not look for who is at fault. It helps you see the feelings on both sides and find a new way to talk.

The 6-card relationship spread

  • Card 1, you: how you are showing up in this relationship.
  • Card 2, the other person: what you see from them lately.
  • Card 3, your feelings.
  • Card 4, their feelings (read as a tendency, not as mind reading).
  • Card 5, the relationship now: what the two of you are building together.
  • Card 6, the trend: where things are heading if they stay as they are.

Reading both sides fairly

  1. Read your own card first. Ask yourself honestly what it reflects about what you are doing.
  2. Read their card with compassion. Assume they may have reasons you do not know yet.
  3. Compare card 3 with card 4 and see whether the two of you feel the same way.
  4. Use card 5 to find the things you both need to look after together.
  5. Read card 6 as a trend that can change if you both try something new.

A couple who argue more and more

Question: My partner and I have been arguing over small things a lot lately. How should we adjust?

Cards: Five of Swords, position Situation; Temperance, position What to do; Six of Cups, position Outcome

Sample answer: Situation: Five of Swords. A figure who won the argument but is left standing alone. You may both be arguing to win rather than to understand. What to do: Temperance. An angel slowly pouring water between two cups. Try agreeing that when an argument starts, you take ten minutes apart and then come back and talk, taking turns to speak. Outcome: Six of Cups. Warmth and good memories. If you cut back on trying to win, the good feelings of your early days together have a chance to return.

No card points to who is at fault. The advice is something you can both do together.

Things to be careful about in a couples reading

  • Do not use cards as evidence that your partner is cheating. If you really suspect it, talk to them directly or turn to a mediator you trust.
  • Do not tell your partner, "The cards say you are like this." It becomes an accusation.
  • If there is physical abuse, threats or control over your life, reach out first to someone you trust or to the relevant services.
  • If you feel too overwhelmed to cope, a local crisis line is available around the clock.

Tip: Turn the reading into an opening line for a conversation, such as "Lately it feels like we argue to win. Can we agree on a different way?" The cards help you find the words. They do not speak for you.

Summary

  1. The 6-card relationship spread reads you, the other person, both sets of feelings, the relationship and the trend.
  2. Read your own card honestly, and theirs with compassion.
  3. The cards help you find a way to talk. They do not find someone to blame.

Frequently asked questions

Does my partner need to be there for a couples reading?
Not necessarily. But if you both want to look at it together, it can make it easier to talk about what the cards bring up.
How far can I trust the other person's feelings card?
Treat it as a trend or something you have noticed, not as mind reading. What they say and do is always more reliable.
How often should I do a couples reading?
When something new comes up, or after you have tried acting on the advice for a while. There is no need to do it every day.
Where can I use the 6-card relationship spread?
At Redar, the love and relationship spread is on the Plus plan or higher, or with a reading pack. The card table lets you read on your own for free, up to the number of cards your plan allows.